The Question That Stayed With Me for Five Years
I have often wondered why two children sitting on the same bench, listening to the same teacher, studying from the same textbook and taking the same examination can achieve completely different outcomes. One child walks away with confidence, believing there is nothing he or she cannot learn. The other quietly begins to believe that perhaps education was never meant for them.
Over the past five years, this question has stayed with me more than any lesson I have ever taught.
Teaching has given me the opportunity to work with students from Pakistan as well as learners from the United States, the United Kingdom, Australia and the United Arab Emirates. I have taught children following local curricula, Cambridge programmes and other international education systems. Every student has been different, not only in personality but also in the way they think, understand and respond to learning.
The more students I taught, the more convinced I became of one simple truth: every child is capable of learning. What differs is not intelligence but the path through which learning takes place.
Some students understand a new concept within minutes. Others need time, repetition and reassurance before they begin to feel comfortable. Some learn best when ideas are connected to everyday life, while others prefer diagrams, discussions or practical activities. There are children who ask ten questions in a single lesson and those who remain completely silent, not because they have understood everything but because they are afraid of asking what others might consider a simple question.
None of these children is less intelligent than another. They simply learn differently.
Unfortunately, our education system does not always have the flexibility to recognise these differences.
Every Child Is Capable of Learning
Before I go any further, I want to say something that is very important to me. This article is not a criticism of schools or teachers. In fact, I have immense respect for the teaching profession because I understand its challenges. I have seen teachers working with dedication despite overcrowded classrooms, limited resources and enormous expectations. Asking one teacher to address the individual needs of forty or fifty students within a single period is a responsibility that would challenge even the most experienced educator.
The limitation, therefore, is not always the teacher.
Often, it is the system within which teachers are expected to work.
A classroom is designed to teach a group. A child, however, learns as an individual.
That distinction may appear small, but I believe it lies at the heart of many educational challenges we face today.
The Student Who Changed My Perspective
During my teaching career, I have met students who could solve complex mathematical problems but struggled to express themselves in writing. I have taught others who wrote beautifully yet found basic calculations difficult. I have worked with children who flourished in discussion but lost concentration the moment learning became formal and rigid.
These experiences taught me something that no university course ever could.
Children do not fail because they all lack ability.
More often, they struggle because we expect every child to climb the same mountain using the same path.
The moment we begin measuring every learner with a single standard, we unintentionally overlook the uniqueness that makes each child capable of succeeding in his or her own way.
I realised this most clearly because of one student.
I was teaching four children from the same family. Three of them progressed steadily and responded well to my lessons. The fourth, however, struggled with almost everything I taught. No matter how much I explained, he seemed distracted. He forgot what he had learnt, lost focus easily and rarely participated in discussions. Like many teachers, I initially assumed that he simply needed to work harder.
But something about that explanation never satisfied me.
I began paying closer attention—not only to what he learnt, but to how he learnt.
Slowly, I noticed a pattern.
Whenever the other children left the room, he became a completely different learner. He asked thoughtful questions, participated enthusiastically and showed genuine curiosity. When I explained ideas through everyday examples instead of textbook language, he understood them almost immediately. Instead of giving him answers, I encouraged him to think aloud, and to my surprise, he often reached the correct conclusion himself.
That experience changed the way I looked at teaching.
The problem had never been the student.
The problem was that I had been trying to teach him in the same way I was teaching everyone else.
Once I separated his lessons from the others and adapted my teaching to suit his learning style, his progress was remarkable. A student who had been failing in several subjects gradually improved to earning As and Bs. More importantly, he stopped seeing himself as someone who could never succeed.
His confidence returned before his grades did.
Looking back, I believe that was the real achievement.
Why Confidence Matters More Than Grades
That student reminded me of something we often forget as educators and as parents.
Children are not born believing they are weak learners.
They become convinced of it after repeated experiences that make them feel left behind.
The labels we attach to children—'bright', 'average', 'weak' or 'slow'—often stay with them far longer than any lesson we teach. A child who repeatedly hears that he or she is not good enough eventually begins to accept that judgement as part of their identity.
In my opinion, that is one of the greatest tragedies in education.
Because once a child loses confidence in their ability to learn, teaching becomes far more difficult than it ever needed to be.
That experience stayed with me long after the student's grades improved.
Even today, whenever I meet a child who is struggling academically, I think about him. He reminds me that before we judge a student's ability, we must first ask ourselves a more important question: Have we truly understood how this child learns?
Lessons From Three Generations of Educators
I have often heard people describe children as 'naturally intelligent' or 'naturally weak.' The more I teach, the less I believe in these labels.
Intelligence is not as simple as we sometimes imagine. Every child possesses strengths that reveal themselves under the right circumstances. Some children analyse problems logically. Others think creatively. Some communicate their ideas with remarkable confidence, while others quietly observe, reflect and surprise you with insights that no one expected.
As teachers, we have a responsibility to discover those strengths rather than define children by their weaknesses.
Unfortunately, the structure of our education system does not always make this easy.
In a classroom with forty or fifty students, a teacher has to complete the syllabus, prepare students for examinations, manage the classroom and ensure that learning continues according to schedule. Even the most dedicated teacher has limited time to understand the individual learning style of every student sitting before them.
This is not anyone's fault.
It is simply the reality of modern schooling.
Yet, while I acknowledge these limitations, I also believe we must recognise their consequences.
When a child repeatedly fails to understand lessons delivered in a particular way, we often assume the problem lies with the learner. Rarely do we stop to consider that perhaps the method itself needs to change.
Over the years, I have met children who struggled in school but excelled once learning became more personal. I have also met students who lacked confidence not because they were incapable, but because they had spent years comparing themselves with classmates who happened to learn differently.
Comparison is perhaps one of the most silent enemies of education.
Children rarely compare themselves with textbooks.
They compare themselves with the child sitting next to them.
One finishes the exercise in ten minutes.
Another needs thirty.
One scores ninety-five.
Another scores sixty-five.
Gradually, the classroom stops becoming a place where children come to learn. Instead, it becomes a place where many begin measuring their worth against others.
As adults, we often underestimate how deeply these comparisons affect young minds.
A child who repeatedly hears that someone else is 'better' eventually stops believing in his or her own potential. Confidence begins to fade. Curiosity gives way to hesitation. Instead of asking questions, the child remains silent, fearing that every mistake will confirm what others already believe.
In my opinion, this is where many educational journeys begin to change—not because the child has stopped learning, but because the child has stopped believing.
That is why I have always felt that confidence deserves as much attention as academics.
Whenever I teach a student who is finding lessons difficult, my first objective is not to improve grades. It is to rebuild confidence.
A child who believes, 'I can learn this,' will continue trying until they succeed.
A child who believes, 'I am simply not intelligent,' often gives up before the lesson has even begun.
Confidence is not built through praise alone. It grows when students experience small but meaningful successes. Sometimes all it takes is explaining a concept differently, allowing extra time, or giving a learner the freedom to make mistakes without embarrassment.
As teachers, we often celebrate the student who scores the highest marks.
Perhaps we should also celebrate the child who improves from forty percent to seventy percent.
One achievement reflects excellence.
The other reflects growth.
Both deserve recognition.
The Vision Behind AVENField Tutors
If there is one thing I have learnt over the years, it is that our beliefs about education are often shaped long before we ever enter a classroom as teachers. When I look back at my own life, I realise that teaching was never just a profession around me. It was a way of life.
I grew up in a family where conversations about students, classrooms and learning were as common as conversations about everyday life. My earliest understanding of education did not come from books alone. It came from watching the people around me dedicate their lives to teaching with sincerity and humility.
My grandparents belonged to a generation that viewed teaching as a public service rather than a profession. They were respected teachers of the English language at a time when quality education was far less accessible than it is today. Even years after their students had left school, many continued to remember them with affection—not only because they had taught them English, but because they had taught them discipline, confidence and character.
Their influence extended far beyond the classroom.
My father carried that same tradition forward. He devoted more than three decades of his life to public education before retiring. Throughout my childhood, I watched him prepare lessons, discuss the progress of his students and speak about teaching with a sincerity that left a lasting impression on me.
He never measured success by the number of students he taught.
He measured it by the number of students whose lives he had helped improve.
As children, we often learn values without anyone deliberately teaching them to us. Looking back, I realise that my understanding of education was quietly shaped by observing these examples every day.
No one ever told me that teaching was a sacred responsibility.
I simply saw people living that belief.
Today, that commitment continues into the third generation of our family.
Three of my brothers have chosen careers in public education, each serving students through different roles and responsibilities. Watching them work has strengthened my conviction that education is not merely about transferring knowledge. It is about understanding people.
Among them, my elder brother has had a particularly profound influence on my thinking. He holds a PhD in Special Education from the University of the Punjab and has spent many years working with learners whose educational needs often remain overlooked.
Our conversations have never been limited to examination results or academic performance.
Instead, we often find ourselves discussing questions that have no simple answers.
Why do some children lose confidence so early?
Why do intelligent students begin believing they are incapable of learning?
Why do certain teaching methods transform one child while leaving another completely disengaged?
The more we discussed these questions, the more we reached the same conclusion.
Education is deeply personal.
No two children are exactly alike.
If every learner is different, then meaningful education cannot be built upon a single method of teaching.
It must begin with understanding the individual child.
That simple belief eventually became the foundation of countless conversations within our family.
We often asked ourselves what an educational platform would look like if it were designed not from a business perspective, but from the perspective of teachers.
What if the priority was not simply assigning tutors but understanding students?
What if teachers received continuous guidance instead of being left to work in isolation?
What if parents remained active partners throughout the learning process rather than receiving feedback only after examinations?
Most importantly, what if every educational decision began with a single question: 'What does this particular student need in order to succeed?'
The more we reflected upon these ideas, the clearer our purpose became.
We did not want to create just another tutoring service.
Pakistan already has many organisations working hard to connect students with tutors, and many of them have made valuable contributions to education.
Our vision was different.
We wanted to create a platform where teaching would remain at the centre of every decision.
A place where teachers would continue learning, where students would receive personalised academic support, and where parents would know that someone was genuinely invested in their child's progress.
That vision eventually became AVENField Tutors.
For me, however, AVENField Tutors has never been merely a name or an organisation.
It represents the values that I inherited from my family and the lessons I have learnt from every student who has trusted me with their education.
It reminds me every day that teaching is not about completing chapters.
It is about changing lives—one student at a time.
The Future of Education in Pakistan
There are times when people ask me whether I am optimistic about the future of education.
Without hesitation, my answer is always yes.
Not because I believe our education system is perfect, but because I have seen what becomes possible when a child is taught in the right way.
I have seen students who were once labelled 'weak' become confident learners.
I have seen children who avoided books begin reading out of curiosity rather than obligation.
I have seen parents who had almost lost hope smile again because their child had finally started believing in themselves.
These experiences remind me that education is never just about academic performance.
At its heart, education is about human potential.
The responsibility of a teacher is not simply to explain a lesson.
It is to help a child discover abilities they did not know they possessed.
That is why I often say that before we teach mathematics, science or languages, we must first teach confidence.
A child who believes in themselves will continue learning long after the lesson has ended.
A child who has lost confidence may stop learning even while sitting in the classroom.
This is why I believe parents have a role that extends far beyond ensuring homework is completed or examination dates are remembered.
Parents know their children better than anyone else.
They notice the excitement in their eyes when they discover something new.
They notice the silence that follows disappointment.
They know when a child has started doubting themselves, even before anyone else does.
For this reason, I believe parents should not measure progress only through report cards.
They should ask questions that marks alone can never answer.
Is my child becoming more curious?
Is my child more confident than they were a month ago?
Do they enjoy learning, or have they started fearing it?
Do they ask questions freely, or do they remain silent because they are afraid of making mistakes?
Sometimes, the answers to these questions reveal far more than any examination result ever could.
The early years of education are especially important.
In my opinion, primary education should not become an endless race for grades.
Those years should be devoted to building the foundations upon which every future achievement depends.
Children should learn honesty before competition, respect before recognition, communication before memorisation, curiosity before comparison and finally confidence before grades.
Because once these qualities become part of a child's character, academic success often follows naturally.
I also believe that teachers deserve greater support than we sometimes acknowledge.
We ask them to shape the future of our children, yet we rarely invest enough in their own professional growth.
The best teachers I have met are not those who believe they know everything.
They are the ones who continue learning.
They reflect on their lessons.
They adapt their methods.
They welcome new ideas.
And above all, they never stop asking themselves how they can become better for the sake of their students.
Perhaps this is the future towards which education should move.
Not towards replacing teachers with technology, but towards empowering teachers with better training, better resources and a deeper understanding of how children learn.
Technology will undoubtedly continue transforming education.
Artificial intelligence, digital classrooms and online learning have already changed the way knowledge is shared across the world.
I myself have had the privilege of teaching students living thousands of miles away without leaving Pakistan.
It is remarkable to think that a child in New York, London, Dubai or Sydney can now learn from a teacher in Islamabad with the click of a button.
Yet despite all these advancements, one thing remains unchanged.
No technology can replace a teacher who believes in a child before the child believes in themselves.
That human connection will always remain at the heart of meaningful education.
When my family and I eventually established AVENField Tutors, we did so with this belief in mind.
We were not trying to create another tutoring service.
We were trying to build the kind of educational platform that we ourselves had always wished existed—one where students are understood before they are assessed, where teachers continue growing professionally, and where parents are treated as partners in their children's educational journey.
Whether this vision is achieved through AVENField Tutors or through countless other sincere educational initiatives across Pakistan matters less than the vision itself.
Our children deserve educational institutions that place learning above marketing, understanding above memorisation, and long-term character development above short-term academic results.
If more of us begin working towards that goal, I have no doubt that the future of education in Pakistan will be brighter than its present.
Final Thoughts
As I bring these reflections to a close, I find myself thinking once again about the student I mentioned at the beginning of this article.
People often ask me what strategy completely changed his performance.
My answer usually surprises them.
There was no revolutionary teaching technique.
No expensive learning programme.
No secret formula.
I simply stopped trying to make the child fit my method and started changing my method to fit the child.
Everything else followed.
His grades improved.
His confidence returned.
His curiosity came back.
Most importantly, he stopped believing that he was incapable of learning.
To this day, I do not remember that student because of the marks he eventually achieved.
I remember him because he reminded me of something that every teacher, every parent and every educational institution should never forget.
Behind every struggling student is a story that deserves to be understood before it is judged.
If we can remember that, I believe we will not only educate brighter students we will raise more confident human beings.
And in the end, that is what education has always been about.
MM
Written by
Muhammad Mubasir Khan
Academician, Educator & Education Researcher
Founder of AVENField Tutors, with extensive experience in personalised learning and international education. A regular contributor to Minute Mirror, Parliament Times, and Dawn, where he writes on education, learning, and the future of teaching.
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